Internal sabotage: how to recognize it and stop living against yourself

Many people feel they know what they want… but they can't hold onto it.

They start with enthusiasm, make important decisions, make sincere attempts... and something holds them back.

It's not a lack of discipline. It's not laziness. It's not weakness.

That which appears time and time again is called internal sabotage .

What is internal sabotage?

Internal sabotage is an unconscious protection mechanism . It doesn't arise to harm you, but to keep you safe based on past experiences.

At some point in your life:

• Silence was safer than speaking out

• Adapting was better than losing

• Postponing was less risky than failing.

The problem isn't that this pattern exists. The problem is continuing to live with it when it no longer represents you .

Clear signs of self-sabotage

Sabotage doesn't always manifest itself in obvious ways. Often it disguises itself as logic, prudence, or "realism."

Some common signs:

• You procrastinate just before moving forward

• You fill yourself with reasonable excuses

• You start projects that you don't sustain

• You tolerate situations that you know are not good for you.

• You constantly tell yourself "later", "when I'm ready", "not right now"

The deepest sign: 👉 you get used to living below what you know you deserve.

Sabotage and the nervous system

One essential truth: sabotage does not live in the mind, it lives in the nervous system.

When the body doesn't feel safe:

• avoid changes

• reject the unknown

• clings to what is familiar, even if it hurts

That's why understanding the pattern isn't enough. It's necessary to regulate the body , not just convince the mind.

When the nervous system calms down, self-sabotage loses its power. It no longer needs to protect you from everything.

The energy cost of self-sabotage

Living in self-sabotage doesn't just affect decisions. It also disrupts your energy .

It may feel like:

• constant tiredness

• mild but persistent anxiety

• mental confusion

• feeling of stagnation

• repetition of the same scenarios

Not because you can't go out... but because something in you still believes it's not safe to do so .

Consciousness: the first step to transforming it

Sabotage begins to transform when you stop fighting against it and start observing it without judgment .

Questions that raise awareness:

• What am I avoiding feeling?

• What do I think I could lose if I move forward?

• Since when do I react like this?

Consciousness does not eliminate the pattern immediately, but it takes away automatic control .

And that changes everything.

Stop living against yourself

Healing self-sabotage isn't about demanding more of yourself. It's about building inner security .

When the body feels supported:

• you choose differently

• You allow yourself to move forward

• You hold on to what you once abandoned.

• You open yourself to receiving without guilt

Consistency doesn't come from pressure. It comes from regulation.

You are not broken. You are not failing. You are not late.

You are conditioned… and all conditioning can be transformed .

When you stop living against yourself, your energy becomes ordered and your life responds.

If you feel something inside you is holding you back, if you know there's more for you but you can't handle it alone, if your body is asking for coherence…

👉 Don't just hear about it… EXPERIENCE IT.

Fabiola Passariello

Specialist in vibrational/frequency medicine

Emotional management support person